Left: two hydrogen atoms form a covalent bond, via a balancing of attraction and repulsion. Center: David Buss's 1994 The Evolution of Desire, the classic work breaking down desire evolution-wise and cross-culturally, in terms of mechanism. Right: a doll-like man and woman: typical objects of desire, made with attractive properties of: averageness, symmetry, fitness, age (ripeness), sexuality (high testosterone to estrogen ratios; or conversely), and complexion; latitude markers (skin color) (immune system optimality), etc., who are found to form stable long-term marriage bonds when the attraction to repulsion ratio is 5-to-1 (Gottman stability ratio). |
“Every society, great or small, resembles ... a complex molecule, in which the atoms are represented by men, possessed of all those multifarious attractions and repulsions which are manifested in their desires and volitions, the unlimited power of satisfying which we call freedom ... the social molecule exists in virtue of the renunciation of more or less of this freedom by every individual. It is decomposed, when the attraction of desire leads to the resumption of that freedom the expression of which is essential to the existence of the social molecule. The great problem of social chemistry we call politics, is to discover what desires of mankind may be gratified, and what must be suppressed, if the highly complex compound, society, is to avoid decomposition.”
“It is suggested that the formation of complex compounds be due to an inherent desire on the part of the atom of certain elements to complete its outer shell of electrons.”
“The atoms are uncomfortable when they are in this position. They do not feel happy till they have rearranged themselves so.”